While it’s inevitable that bad things will happen in life, they don’t have to make you miserable or unhappy. In fact, you can choose to be happy in any situation (within reason of course 🙂 I’m not talking about never having emotions). Here’s how to have a life that gets better and better every day.
[See Also: 10 Things Happy People Do Differently]
How to Have a Life That Gets Better and Better Every Day
If you want to be happy, then it takes a little work. When something happens in your life, you have two choices: you can react negatively (“Why do bad things always happen to me?”) or you can react positively (“What can I learn from this? Where do I need to slow down and reflect?”).
No matter who you are, you can ALWAYS choose to see something in a positive way. You don’t have to be a certain kind of Pollyanna person or born with a special talent for optimism to be happy. Anyone can be happy.
If you want a life that just keeps getting better and better, then choose to react positively as often as you can. If something tragic happens, it’s right to grieve, but most day to day events are just minor annoyances or complaints, and they don’t have to ruin your day.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you and your boss don’t get along. Maybe they don’t appreciate what you do and they complain about all the work you put out.
An unhappy or negative person would choose to complain and paint themselves as a victim of an unfair situation. But a happy person would see this as a lesson in the making. What are you not seeing that your boss wants you to understand? Maybe you really can do things differently or at the very least have compassion for someone who is probably just as stressed out and upset as you are.
Try to see things from the other person’s point of view. Maybe their bitter comments or glossing over you is not really about you but is just a reflection of their own pain.
So how could you react positively? Work harder, ask your boss what improvements you can make, and be kind.
Ok, what about making more good things happen? You can instantly increase the number of good things in your life by having gratitude! Count every blessing.
If someone holds the door open for you, say thank you with a smile. Something good happened to you! If you find your favorite candy on sale at the grocery store, put it on your gratitude list! Every good thing, big or small, can count as something good happening to you.
And here’s a secret. The more you keep track of good things in your life, the more good things will happen! And suddenly you’ll have tons of tons of good things happening, not because anything necessarily changed but because you’re now acknowledging and noticing them.
You can even affirm that to yourself. If something good happens (even teeny tiny things :)), just think, “Wow, today’s my lucky day!” Because whatever you focus on, you’ll get more of. If you focus on the negative, you will always have more bad things to think about, but if you focus on the positive, then suddenly all you’ll see are the positive things. It’s like Red Shoe syndrome. If you really want a pair of red shoes, suddenly you’ll notice red shoes everywhere you go.
It’s the same with happiness and having a life that gets better and better. If you want more good things to happen, start noticing the good things now.
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