One of the hardest parts of recovering from depression is changing beliefs that you may have been holding onto for years. Some of these beliefs might have become such a core part of your worldview that you don’t even realize that they’re actually beliefs rather than universal truths. But most of what we think are just beliefs, which means they can be changed. Here are 5 beliefs I changed to be happy.
Note: you may or may not have any of these same beliefs, but these were just a few things that were holding me back from being happy. Some of this stuff is really hard to look at in your own life, so definitely wait until you feel ready to do this kind of inner work and introspection.
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5 Beliefs I Changed to Be Happy
1. Seeing myself as a victim
This was the hardest one to change. I had all these stories about why I was a victim of my own life and could come up with reasons that seemingly “proved” this, but ultimately I had to change this belief into becoming the hero of my own life in order to start making lasting changes. Maybe you actually were the victim of something. But I heard once that there are no happy victims in life. This one is a matter of changing how you identify yourself. Instead, turn this belief into: “I’m the hero of my own life.”
2. Blaming others for my unhappiness
As tempting as it is to blame your family, the government, your bullies, your ex, the economy, or that random guy who just looked at you funny for why you’re not happy, you ultimately have to take responsibility for your life in order to start changing it. Turn this into: “I’m responsible for my own happiness.”
3. Seeing the world through a negative lens
If you follow the news or use social media a lot, it’s definitely easy to see the world in a negative light, but you have to remember that what you’re hearing still has someone’s opinions and bias in it, so it’s not necessarily a universal truth about the way the world is. For this one, you can either seek out good things happening in the world or just avoid current events for now.
4. Needing to be right
When I was younger, I used to argue with people so much because I always wanted to be right about things and prove to them why I was right. (I cringe just thinking about it now). But would you rather be right or be happy?
5. Feeling like I didn’t deserve to be happy
I combatted this belief by literally making a list of 10 reasons why I deserved to be happy. Maybe it sounds kinda silly, but if you feel like you don’t deserve to be happy, then make yourself come up with 10 reasons why you do deserve to be happy. Change this belief to: “I deserve to be happy.”
It’s difficult to look at some of your own beliefs about life and work on changing them, but there are definitely beliefs that can hold you back from being happy. If you’re holding onto any of the thoughts above, changing them can make a huge difference in your happiness and general peace with life.
Good luck. 🙂