Self doubt is that nagging feeling of not being good enough that follows you around when you’re trying to accomplish something close to you or meaningful. Here’s how to overcome self doubt or deal with doubting yourself.
How to Overcome Self Doubt | What to Do When You Doubt Yourself
My favorite quote for dealing with self doubt is this one by Vincent Van Gogh:
“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”
In other words, the only way to crush the fear and self doubt you feel is to do exactly what it is that you’re afraid of. It might be terrifying at first, and you might doubt yourself every step of the way, but over time you’ll gain more confidence and the voice of fear and doubt in the back of your mind will become quieter and quieter.
Baby Steps for Self Doubt
I’d recommend starting with baby steps. Maybe you can even do something similar to what you’re doubting yourself about, but that’s a little less intimidating or lower risk.
For example, if you wanted to apply for a job at your dream company, maybe you would start with looking up typical interview questions to see what you might be asked, and start thinking about your answers.
You don’t have to go out on an interview yet, just start preparing yourself so you know what to expect when you actually come face to face with your fears.
Instead of jumping head first into the most challenging thing you can think of (unless that works for you), see it as more of a progression of tiny steps all moving toward your ultimate goal.
Start with just researching information and finding things out to get an idea of how things will actually be. Once you know what to expect, you can start taking small actions or try some practice interviews, to go with the previous example, to build up your confidence before you go for the real deal.
The truth is, no matter how long you’ve been doing something, the fear and self doubt never completely goes away – it just gets quieter and quieter, and over time you’ve built up enough wins for yourself and good experiences that you can quash that voice of self doubt much sooner when it comes up.