There are three simple actions you can do to live a happier life. If you aren’t doing them currently, now’s a good time to try them to increase joy and gain contentment. With the incentive to carry out the thoughts and actions to be happier, you can change your life. Here are 3 things that will make you happy.
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3 Things that Will Make You Happy
Forgiveness isn’t something you do for the other person, it’s a gift you give to yourself. When you let go of the emotional pain accompanying grudges, you lighten your spirit.
You’re no longer weighed down with resentment and are free to be a wiser, happier person. It’s not easy to forgive someone (or to forgive your own past actions), but letting go of this negative energy can make a huge difference in your happiness.
Try thinking about the person or incident you want to forgive and then say this mantra: “I forgive you, I’m sorry, I love you, thank you.”
Focus on love
The main thought in your mind colors everything you experience. When you focus on love, you seek to understand people and situations.
You don’t react impulsively, but instead come from a place of empathy and love. As a result, you don’t get hurt or angry so often.
Your emotional intelligence grows, and life reflects love to you. Love gives you a sense of stability and freedom from stress, which in turn aids happiness.
Fill-up on gratitude
Recognize your blessings and be thankful every day. As your gratitude grows, your heart will fill with joy and compassion.
Your thoughts and feelings influence the hormones your system produces, and appreciation lifts your spirit and aids feel-good chemicals to make you happy.
Aim to have at least three appreciation breaks during the day and top-up on gratitude.
Forgive freely, and you will be light rather than burdened with bitterness. Focus on love and your compassion will attract greater joy. Also, replenish gratitude, and your emotional state will match the appreciation in your heart.
There’s More Than One Path to Happiness
Remember that there’s more than one path to happiness.
So if you find yourself disagreeing with something you hear (including what I say) or you try something and it just makes you feel bad, realize that there are many, many ways to become happy.
I can give you suggestions and ideas of what to try, but at the end of the day, they’re just suggestions. If you’re trying things and they’re not working, maybe it still helped you because you discovered what doesn’t work for you.
Sometimes knowing what you don’t want is just as valuable as knowing what you do.
And every step you take or action you try, the closer you are to figuring out something that does work. You may fail hundreds of times before you finally stumble upon something that does work.
I wish I could say that there are a definitive series of steps that you can follow and you’re guaranteed to be happy, but unfortunately (and fortunately), people are different and things that work for me may not work for you. And vice versa.
It does help to have a starting place though, especially so you can compare your results from trying different things. Maybe one person suggests one thing and you hear about something else online, so you end up trying a little of everything and figuring out what you like and what you don’t. That’s making good progress!
It’s kind of like the different world religions. They each claim that they are the truth, but they say different things. The Buddha suggested one thing versus the things Jesus taught. But they’re actually very similar deep down.
Maybe there’s some truth in all of them, because fundamentally they usually support the same basic ideas (like the concept of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”).
That’s like the path to happiness. Fundamentally, there are some basic ideas that work for a lot of people, like gratitude and a positive attitude and meditation and exercise. But the details and exact steps are up to you to figure out.
Try things out in your life, keep the things that work, and let go of the rest.
Whatever you discover is helpful is perfect for you. There’s more than one path to happiness.
You got this.