When it comes to following your dreams, embed this quote into your soul (and read the whole thing :)).
“It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena. Whose face is marred with dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”
Maybe you have a dream closely pinned to your heart. Maybe you’re afraid to tell anyone about it for fear of what they would think. Or maybe you’re afraid to do anything about it because you’re just scared in general. Or maybe you have told someone and they criticized you.
Just because someone said that your dream is stupid or that you’re never going to succeed doesn’t mean it’s true.
Here’s something to remember: usually the people who try to crush your dreams are people who had their own dreams crushed. It’s not really about you, it’s about them taking out their pain on the closest target (you).
So if someone tells you’re a failure or you’re wasting your time or that your dreams are a waste of time, try to have compassion. It’s easy to get mad at someone when they wrong you, but the difficult – and better – thing to do is to have compassion for that person who is probably in pain. Try to understand that they themselves are hurting and that’s why they’re trying to hurt you.
And of course, take what they’re saying with a grain of salt.
Here’s another quote:
“Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.” – Zig Ziglar
In other words, a secret just between you and me is that the people trying to discourage you from doing what you’re passionate about or following your dreams are people who once had their dreams crushed. So when someone tells me I’m not going to succeed, instead of getting mad I just sympathize with them because I know deep down that this was probably a person who once had a dream and gave up on it.
It’s easy to criticize other people and complain about the world and be negative, but it’s a true challenge and accomplishment to go after your dreams and be successful at whatever it is you want to do. To be the one in the arena fighting for your dreams, day in and day out.
Don’t listen to the haters, and don’t get drawn into their negativity. They gave up on their dreams a long time ago, but you don’t have to.
You’ve got this.