“Life fell apart for us in that house, several times, like falling down the stairs, when you keep thinking that surely this is the bottom, now this, now this.” – Shauna Niequist
I know what it’s like for everything in your life to fall apart. I know what it’s like to be depressed and feel like you’re at the bottom of a dark, deep well looking up and thinking you’re never going to crawl your way to the top. But you can. And you will. Here’s how to do when life keeps getting worse.
What to Do When Life Keeps Getting Worse and Worse
My life isn’t in a dark place anymore. It got better. It can get better for you too.
Sometimes it feels like life just keeps getting worse and worse, and just when you think you’re starting to make progress on something, you have another setback and fall back down the stairs and keep falling, falling, falling.
But you won’t fall forever.
First, make sure you’re not unknowingly sabotaging yourself.
When things are already going wrong, it’s easy for things to just keep piling on because we let things go or unconsciously start to sabotage things. We tend to do this when things are going well too, because we get scared that things are “too” good to be true and panic.
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So, is there anything you can do to prevent things from getting worse? Is there anything that needs your attention now before it becomes a problem? You want to be proactive about taking care of yourself and finding solutions to problems as they arise, rather than letting everything pile up and become overwhelming.
Take on one problem at a time. Either fix it or forgive it. Is there anything you can do to make it better? If not, do you need to just process your feelings, forgive someone, or give yourself time to heal? Do what you need to do for each thing that demands your attention, and make sure you’re prioritizing problems so you take care of the most urgent issues first.
If you feel like you’re drowning in a million different problems right now, write everything down in a brain dump. Just free write about everything that’s on your mind for the next 15 minutes.
Next, follow the four D’s. For each item on the page, either 1. Do it, 2. Delegate it, 3. Delete it, or 4. Defer it. This is from The Success Principles. Prioritize the things you need to do based on urgency and importance. Try to delete as many things on your list on possible. Ask for help if you need it. And if you want to do something, but not right now, just put it in a “defer” list to come back to in the future.
Ok, phew. Do you feel any better? When you feel like things keep getting worse, take a breather and then get proactive about staying on top of things before they become problems in your life. The fewer the emergencies, the better. 🙂