Sometimes we hold onto painful memories and experiences from the past because we just don’t know how to let go of them. Here’s how to do a letting go ritual so you can complete the past and move on.
How to Do a Letting Go Ritual
For our letting go ritual, this is all going to be symbolic stuff. As far as I know, you can’t “literally” let go of the past, so taking a few symbolic actions and visualizing what you want is the closest we can get. 😃 This would be a great way to close out the year or to symbolically complete a certain chapter of your life.
To start, grab a few pieces of paper and a pen or pencil. Similar to forgiveness work, we’re going to write down old memories and experiences that are currently having a negative effect on us. If it’s something bad and you still remember it, it’s probably still affecting you in some way.
You could stick to a particular theme, like negative memories from the past year, or even go through your whole life if you really want to go in depth, but I’d recommend starting with a handful of memories (no more than a couple pages of writing it out or journaling) and doing this ritual more than once in the future for more memories.
You can write it down in whatever way you’d like – free writing, journaling, stream of consciousness writing, listing specific negative experiences or people or things they said. Anything you’d like to let go of.
Next, we’re going to look back at your list and go through each memory and forgive and let go of them one by one. For this part, you have a few different options. You might say a mantra for each one (such as, “I forgive you, I’m sorry, I love you, thank you”), cut out each memory onto its own piece of paper and then shred or burn the paper, cross through your list one line at a time with a black marker, or flush the whole piece of paper down the toilet. Whatever feels like “letting go” to you.
This might bring up some bad feelings and make you think about things you haven’t thought about for a long time, so don’t be surprised if you feel worse before you feel better. You might want to talk to someone afterward to better process your feelings.
Next, we’re going to finish our letting go ritual with some visualizing – in the shower, of all places. 😃 I like taking a shower as part of letting go of old memories because you can visualize the water washing off all the bad memories and negative experiences. Imagine the water washing you clean of all the bad and toxic energy you’ve been holding onto, and that when you get out of the shower, you’ll be starting with a clean slate and a fresh perspective on life.
If you’d like more ways to let go of the past, check out our 30 Day Negativity Detox.