When I was depressed I used to hope that someone would come along and “save” me from what I was going through and magically make it all better. It sounds kind of funny to write it out like that, but I really was secretly hoping that someone would rescue me like they do in romantic movies. But here’s why you should be your own best friend instead.
Why You Should Be Your Own Best Friend
One day I realized that I was not the damsel in distress in my story. I was both the princess AND the knight in shining armor and I was going to save myself. So I did. That started my journey on the road to finally being happy.
The moment everything changes is the moment you take responsibility for your own life. It’s not fun, and it’s not pretty, but it has the potential to transform everything in your life. When you realize that you are the one you’ve been waiting for, big things happen. 😃
When you decide to be your own best friend, you decide a few things: one, that you love yourself and like it or not, you’re literally stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. Life is a lot easier if you like yourself. And two, if you’re your own best friend, you aren’t waiting for someone else to swoop in and fix your life or save you from something.
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YOU are the hero you’ve been waiting for. That’s both terrifying and exhilarating at the same time.
That means you are in control of your life, and you get to decide how things turn out. You don’t to wait a moment longer to start improving your life or be happy. 😃 You don’t have to wait to be happy until you’ve lost the weight, fallen in love, graduated, gotten the right job, or anything else. You don’t have to do anything or accomplish something to “deserve” to be happy. You can be happy and love yourself just as you are in the moment.
When you are your own best friend, you are also your own biggest cheerleader. If right now your inner voice is your biggest critic and the one tearing you down, try talking to yourself the way you would cheer up a friend or family member who’s having a hard time. If you were your own best friend, how would you treat yourself and talk to yourself? Would you be cynical and criticizing, or would you be loving and gentle?
Try saying things like, “You can do it!” and “Maybe it’s hard right now, but you’ll get through this.” It sounds totally cheesy, but it makes you feel better if your inner self talk is positive. 🙂
Be kind to yourself, and first, be your own best friend.