What is a quarter life crisis? A lot of twenty-somethings (or any age, really) go through a time when they have no idea what to do with their life and feel like they’re flailing around unsure of what to do. AKA a quarter life crisis. The good news is, this is temporary and you can in fact figure out your life and figure out what you want to do with it all.
How to Survive a Quarter Life Crisis
First, don’t panic (easier said than done ;)). This is totally normal, and even if social media says otherwise, the truth is that no one else knows what they’re doing either. That’s kind of liberating and kind of scary at the same time. But it also means you’re not alone.
Heck, most of the regular adults I talk to don’t know what they want to do with their lives, let alone the young adults.
Life is the journey of figuring it all out.
You literally have an entire LIFETIME to figure out your life. Sure, there are guidelines about how long you’re “supposed to” attend school, when in life you “should” go to grad school, when you “should” be getting married, etc, but ultimately, there are no hard and fast rules for any of this. You can literally make it up as you go.
“Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.” -Alan Keightley
How often do you ever hear that in your life – that you don’t have to do what other people are doing? Probably not very often. But it’s true. I think you should live your life the way you want, because forcing yourself to live someone else’s idea of a “perfect life” is a good recipe for feeling trapped and depressed.
How to Overcome a Quarter Life Crisis
There are literally so many different ways you can live your life. The possibilities are endless! Don’t want to have a traditional 9-5 job? Then don’t! Self-employment is a real thing. 😃 Want to travel the world? Then save up the money and do it! Want to live on a hippie commune surrounded by ten cats and grow your own vegetables? Do it! You have permission to live the life you’ve always wanted.
Sure, there is a so-called “life script” about the way things are supposed to go in our lives, namely: go to college, graduate, get a job, get married, move to the suburbs, get a mortgage, have 2.2 kids, etc, etc, but you don’t have to do that if you don’t want to (unless you do want to do that, in which case: go for it!).
You’re allowed to live the life you’ve always wanted. You’re allowed to not know what you want. You’re allowed to spend a few years trying something out and then change your mind and go down a new path. You have the rest of your life to figure this out.
You are allowed.
If you’d like more tips about how to figure out your life, check out our class Figure Out Your Life.